Assess both of your intentionsAre you looking for a hook up or to date a person? This may be a question the person you are interacting with may wonder depending on the vibe you are giving off. For example, if your initial conversations focus too quickly on sex related topics (i.e. sexual likes and dislikes) a false impression may be given, regardless of who initiates such talk. If this is the case, it may be necessary to clearly state what you are looking for and/or ask your date the same. Bonus tip: If you are using web portals as a dating funnel like sisterspeak.org, be sure to state your intentions in your profile.
Apply the booty brakesSimply put, this means making a conscious choice to avoid sex - at least for awhile with the new person of interest. The booty brake isn’t always the most comfortable conversation, but once you’ve made it through, your real potential to be a couple will be revealed. Application of this brake may mean that you will need to steer yourself or the other person away from sexual urges in the beginning.
Get back to basicsIf the sexual energy is so hot that it is placing you and your date in temporary orbit around the sun, then search for a compromise. For some folks, this means being OK with landing on “First base” … meaning “French kissing”. It should be noted however that this can be dangerous, particularly if alcohol is part of the mix – which can easily cause a person to unintentionally end up on second base (genital touching) or sliding into third base (sex). The point here is to plan in advance how far you are willing to go on that first date and then stick to your guns. To help fortify your decision, it may be a good idea to reduce alcohol intake or in some cases, avoid drinking altogether.
Although it’s not ideal to have FDS and it is important to not cast judgment on oneself if you have slipped. The truth is, there are many people who have partaken in FDS with the person who is now their long term partner. With that stated, some people have personally found that FDS has served as a barrier to intimacy, thusly eclipsing future relational possibilities with an eligible party. If this is the case for you, consider employing the three tips shared above.
So go ahead and get your sexy on and enjoy that first date. Just remember what your Grandma used to say … Sometimes the wait is worth the while.Chine

THE STANDING 69
1.The man should lie down facing the woman.
2.The woman lies on top of him in the 69 position --
that is, face down in the opposite direction her face
is in his crotch and vice versa.
3.The man should grip the woman tightly across the
lower back, just above her buttocks.
4.Stand up carefully. The supporting partner should
first move into a sitting position and then stand up.
5.Perform mutual fellatio or cunnilingus.
Warnings & Tips: Soft carpets, gym mats, featherbeds
and other cushiony floor surfaces make this stunt
safer. Wipe any sweat from your bodies first to gain a better
grip.
To avoid a serious neck or head injury to the woman,
the man should be able handle a squat in the gym with
the same weight as both partners combined. Dropping
your partner can result in serious injury.
The physical strain may be too distracting for the
optimal giving or receiving of pleasure.
THE CLASSIC 69
1.Have your partner lay flat on his or her back. In
the classic 69 position, this is usually the man;
however comfort may dictate that the heavier partner
take the bottom.
2.Straddle your partner so that your genitals are
positioned over your partner’s face, and your face is
over your partner’s genitals.
3.Adjust your position that both of you can orally
stimulate each other’s genitals. Avoid craning your
neck, and make sure that your partner is not straining
to reach you either.
4.Begin slowly, teasing your partner with your tongue,
and then increase the stimulation.
5.Use your hands to provide an additional level of
pleasure. Encourage your partner to do the same.
Warnings & Tips: Oral sex can be enhanced by taking a
shower together first. Use this time to tease and
excite one another so that the classic 69 position
will be a mind-blowing experience.
Add flavored massage oil into the mix to enhance the
pleasure of the classic 69 position. Make sure that
you chose non-toxic oils that are edible and do not
irritate the skin.
Be extremely careful if you use your teeth as part of
oral sex. The genitals are sensitive and you may hurt
your partner unintentionally.

1.The man should lie down facing the woman.
2.The woman lies on top of him in the 69 position -- that is, face down in the opposite direction her face is in his crotch and vice versa.
3.The man should grip the woman tightly across the lower back, just above her buttocks.
4.Stand up carefully. The supporting partner should first move into a sitting position and then stand up.
5.Perform mutual fellatio or cunnilingus (give each other head).
Warnings & Tips: Soft carpets, gym mats, featherbeds and other cushiony floor surfaces make this stunt safer. Wipe any sweat from your bodies first to gain a better grip.
To avoid a serious neck or head injury to the woman, the man should be able handle a squat in the gym with the same weight as both partners combined. Dropping your partner can result in serious injury. The physical strain may be too distracting for the
optimal giving or receiving of pleasure.
THE CLASSIC 69
1.Have your partner lay flat on his or her back. In the classic 69 position, this is usually the man; however comfort may dictate that the heavier partner take the bottom.
2.Straddle your partner so that your genitals are positioned over your partner’s face, and your face is over your partner’s genitals.
3.Adjust your position that both of you can orally stimulate each other’s genitals. Avoid craning your neck, and make sure that your partner is not straining to reach you either.
4.Begin slowly, teasing your partner with your tongue, and then increase the stimulation.
5.Use your hands to provide an additional level of pleasure. Encourage your partner to do the same.
Warnings & Tips: Oral sex can be enhanced by taking a shower together first. Use this time to tease and excite one another so that the classic 69 position will be a mind-blowing experience.
Add flavored massage oil into the mix to enhance the pleasure of the classic 69 position. Make sure that you chose non-toxic oils that are edible and do not irritate the skin.
Be extremely careful if you use your teeth as part of oral sex. The genitals are sensitive and you may hurt your partner unintentionally.

After a while (especially for couples that have very healthy sex lives), sex starts to turn into a routine: a little (or a lot) kissing, foreplay (whatever forms,oral, fingers), the act itself and then cuddling. For those with unhealthy sex lives, it becomes a chore, barely any kisssing or cuddling and a few? minutes of pump action and thats that. This is what causes most couples to lose interest in sex with their spouses (usually?). This is where ROLE PLAYING comes in. I was first intrigued by the concept after Trey Songs did an entire song about it on his Trey Days album 2 years ago (appropriatelt titled Role Play). I tried it and i can't lie, it produces rather 'intense' results.
Enter the world of the sexy nurses, red hiding hoods, flight attendants, headmasters and pupils, bosses and secretaries, strippers and clients, horny nuns, policemen/ women and so much more.
The entire point of role playing is that it allows you venture past your comfort zone and lets you be someonelse entirely which is a great turn-on. You can try almost anything, an important key to pleasurable role-playing is communication; you tell each other your fantasies, its really another way to get closer.
The following are tips for a pleasurable experience:
Effective communication: This sounds like something you hear at work but its really important. you have to listen to your partners preferences and make sure they are comfortable with whatever you decide. Don't ruin the moment with a snide comment that would turn off your partner (nigerian women!!!).
Alternate!: You and your partner are probably not going to share the same tastes or fantasies, so its important that you alternate your 'game' choices so it doesn't get boring.
Make It Along as You Go: Theres obviously no set scripts for these games (even if they are), so for the sake of comfort and generally avoiding awkward moments that just 'go with the flow'.
Please play Dress-up: It is a huge part of role playing.its your spouse, theres really no need to feel shy or awkward around said person, afterall they have probably seen you naked (right?).
Bondage and discipline: If you both consent to a little bondage and discipline game, why not? But be careful not to over-do it and turn it into a terrorizing experience. Please remember CONSENT is the word here!
Rape: As weird as you may think it sounds, some women want to be raped (not in reality) but some women crave the feeling of helplessness and the control their partner has. If your spouse is one of such, please act it out, play raping and raping are two completely different things. This applies generally; don't force anything on your partner! Don't turn up with tools and gadgets that YOU want to try out. So when you hear stop! please Arretez!
Hopefully these tips will help you start your own role-playing sessions. You can visit this site: www.roleplayingfantasies.com to see different games and costumes (a stater kit of sorts).
Enjoy!

A kiss is not just a symbol of foreplay; it can be a medium to communicate your passion, dedication and affection to your partner. It can bring two individuals together and experience the warmth of being with each other. A kiss can allow your whole body to participate and it is not necessary that you end up having a sexual intercourse. This allows you to enjoy the flavor of ultimate kissing at any point of time or at any place in the world.
There's a about a dozen forms of kissing:
Talking Kiss - Whisper sweet nothings into your partner's mouth. If caught in the act, simply say as Chico Marx, "I wasn't kissing her. I was whispering into her mouth."
Hickey Kiss - The object is not to draw blood, but to gently leave a mark that will prove your interlude was not a dream. This is often included in erotic foreplay
Freeze Kiss (or Melt Kiss) - Experiment with this fun kiss. Put a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing them the ice with your tongue. It's an erotic and sensual french kiss with a twist of cold.
Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.
Malteser Kiss - One person pops a malteser in their mouth, and whilst kissing, passes it to the other person on the tongue. The receiver keeps it in their mouth for a few seconds, just enough to lick a little chocolate off, before passing at back to their partner in the same way. This continues until there is no chocolate left on the Malteser, and then it must be swallowed by the one who receives it chocolate-less.
Candy Kiss - Use either a Jolly Rancher or some type of hard candy/mint. Either you or your partner place the candy in your/their mouth and then it is like a game of keep away. Whoever starts tries to keep the candy in their mouth while the other person tries to get it in theirs. But you can only use your tongue and lips.
So don't get to caught in the spirit of the season and neglect your partner, a littel kiss speaks volumes.
Have a Merry Christmas and a Joyous New year from Sisterspeak!